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Some of my students'
issue, they've

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expressed that they've had
loss, loss of a family member,

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loss of a friend,
and loss of a parent.

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Sometimes, our staff
may not be equipped

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with the tool set to
work with our students

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when those things happen.

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More often, with the more
than the parents are, so

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in front line defense,
we've got to have it,

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we've got to have those
basic emotional needs met

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before they can learn them.

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I think the biggest
misconception about grief

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is that kids are resilient.

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Mommy may have died
when they were five,

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kid's probably nine or 10 now.

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Mother's Day comes around.

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Every year, it gets harder
because they're grown up,

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they get to actually see what
mommies are supposed to do,

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they get to hear their
friends talk about mommy

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and how mommy did this.

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And so it changes over time.

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They look at their
mother as a figure

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who should have been there
and not someone who was gone.

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The natural tendency
for a lot of educators

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is to say nothing because
they're afraid they're

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going to say the wrong thing.

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And we want them to
recognize that saying nothing

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is precisely the
wrong thing to say.

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That's why it's so
important to get things

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like we did today with a
professional development

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to learn about what are
new strategies, what

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are new resources,
and what can we

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continue to do and add
to what we've always

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done so that we're supporting
our students like they need to.

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So you really want to make sure
that everyone in your school

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is prepared to support kids.

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I think it's important for
everyone in the school system,

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down from the janitor to the
principal, because the janitor,

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they're the eyes and the ears.

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So they'll hear
everything before it's

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someone in the building.

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They'll hear it all because
students talk around them.

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That's all our
responsibilities to deal

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with the crisis and the trauma
and the grief for our students.

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And we all have to be open to
what does my part look like

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and what can I do with that.

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Today's information was huge.

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It was great resources, great
information for us to hear.

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Very, very helpful
for us to take that,

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share with our
staff, and provide

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some additional
resources and strategies.

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